Looking For A Date? How Best To Succeed

Finding someone new to meet has never been easier, with the use of friendship/social websites or with dedicated dating sites (free or paid). At the simple click of a mouse button you can get to know about someone else from the comfort of your own home, no more smokey bars or drunken people trying to make a pass at you on the "off chance" that you maybe interested. This is probably part of the reason why dating online has become so popular.

Some people find the whole idea of meeting someone new on the internet daunting, these feelings can easily be overcome. Just by following the simple rules of staying safe when contacting people it makes the whole experience more enjoyable. However you do need to be prepared.

The first thing to make the whole process easier and more straight forward is to be honest. This could save a lot of explaining later on if you ever do come to meet the person that your in contact with. When creating your profile be honest about yourself, try to be as accurate as you can. Try to keep any information about yourself positive, remember in short (without going over the top) you are trying to attract another person to contact you. You will need to be totally clear about what you want from any possible relationships with another user, if you only want a casual thing to start with make sure it's included in your profile try not to give someone else the wrong impression. If you're not any good at talking about yourself don't worry, ask a friend to help. Friends can normally tell you a lot about yourself, especially close friends.

The big NO NO is personal information! You really shouldn't give out this sort of information just to anyone, the internet is full of people who can use this information for the wrong purpose. You need to get to know the person first, which means as with MyBabyBe all communication is kept "in house" none of your personal information is ever exchanged with other users whilst using our Send Message option. This is a good start to keeping safe!

The types of information you shouldn't give to anyone when first chatting to them are: Your e-mail address (This is especially true to avoid scammers, they will normally include their e-mail address in the first message to you, this is to get you away from the website. You are this persons next "catch" they don't want you to get away too easily, or run the risk of their profile being removed from the website and being unable to contact you at all. Suspect all @ Yahoo e-mail addresses, yahoo is the most used by these people. (90% use Yahoo). Secondly, telephone numbers. It's really important that you trust the person before telling them your number, the last thing you need is to be harassed. To avoid this we would recommend only handing out your mobile/cell telephone number if you really want to, this way you can easily change the number and it's less likely to give a location away of where you are, unlike land lines which you need the area code for. NEVER give out your Social Security Number to ANYONE on sites like ours, also do not provide copies of your Driving Licence, or Passport. This is information that only YOU should have... Remember ID fraud is one of the fastest growing crimes! Make the most of our website, it's confidential... If you only contact other users using our message system then any risk is greatly reduced, only after you feel you have really got to know the person and it feels right for you (not them, don't feel pressured) then treat the whole experience as normal and go about the situation as you would with any other date.

The best thing you can include in your profile is a genuine photo of you. Don't feel tempted to use a model picture from the internet, even if you feel that your not attractive enough to include your picture. There are no standards as to who will be attracted to a certain person, different people like different things. Again it's better to be honest than have to explain yourself later.

Don't be shy! It's OK to make the first move. With MyBabyBe anyone looking for friends can add this in their profile at the time of sign up, so if your after a date it's probably not a good idea to contact these people first. However, 90% of users that come to MyBabyBe are all here to meet, and date other people. These users profiles will clearly state that they are looking for someone else, and so they are just like you... No need to be shy about contacting them, after all they probably feel the same way you do too!

So that leads to the first meet. Make sure that when the time is right for you to meet the other person that you arrange to meet in a busy place, maybe a town centre, or busy shopping area. Always let someone know about the meeting, for example a family member or friends. Also it's a good idea to take your mobile/cell phone with you too. Keep the people who you have told about the meet informed of any extra developments that may come from the meeting, they will be more relaxed if they know how to get to you incase of anything that may happen. Only go where you feel safe with this new person, remember that you could always meet up again, if the person really wants to start a relationship with you then they will be willing to wait for when your ready.

Never hand out money to a person when you first meet them, and NEVER hand out money online to anyone... Scammers will use any method to part you from your money, check out our Forums for more information.

Please don't be put off by all the information that you have just read, common sense is a lot of what you need to remain safe dating online. Think with your head and not your heart, and who knows... Maybe we will be adding you and your new partners details to our success page!

If at first you don't succeed, try & try again... Eventually your match will come, and the more you use our free dating service the more chance you have of finding that special someone. Rejection may happen, but don't let it get you down there will be someone out there who is worthy of all the love and affection you have to give.

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Written By Dean 8th June 2008